It can't be that complex, you tell yourself. It's simple, at least you know why it happened. Someone once told me that things happen according to a certain set of conditions. Weird things, abnormal things. Once the conditions have been set, even the unimaginable will unfold beautifully, as if it had been waiting to happen, when in fact it was just a fucking coincidence. Of course, these conditions are subjective. But who sets these conditions? Was it fate? Was it God? The stars? The planets? Oh, I know the answer - it's us, weak human beings. What are these conditions, you may ask for this is getting confusing.
CASE 1: Conditions: Lonely girl. Lonely guy. Jazz bar, soothing music, dim lights, intimate atmosphere. Consequence: They kissed.
CASE 2: Conditions: Sick mother. Graduating son. Utter poverty. Son roams the mall one afternoon, a rich lady forgot her purse on one of those benches. Consequence: He saw it, then took it home even though he can still run after the lady and return the wallet.
CASE 3: Conditions: A sweet girl has a problematic best friend. Her best friend, in spite of being problematic is an awesome friend. They were together all the time. They've been friends for years. Consequence: They fell in love with each other. Both are girls.
CASE 4: Conditions: Two old friends, a guy and a girl. They bumped into each other and decided to catch up for they haven't seen each other in a long time. They talked under the sky, talking about their affairs and issues and other shit. Consequence: He walked her home, and they made love.
I could go on and list cases and cases. But for now, let me give you a quiz and ask about what you think will happen to each of these cases after wards. The correct answers:
CASE 1: The two exchanged numbers, started dating then got married 3 years after.
CASE 2: Son uses the money to pay for hospital bills but the mother died anyway. Son graduates, meets a girl then eventually marries her. 2 years after he learned that the lady whose purse he took was actually his wife's aunt. He spends the rest of his life making up for it.
CASE 3: They embraced their love, lived happily for 2 years but broke up, because of - guess what - some conditions. They remained good friends after that, though. Girl starts dating guys again. Best friend's still in love with her, she got so depressed that they didn't last long. One day she was found dead in her room, overdosed on insecticide.
CASE 4: They remained friends and laughed about what happened. Then, they made love one more time. They started spending a great deal of time with each other,then things went back to normal - the way they were before they bumped into each other.
What I'm saying is, sometimes, no matter how open we think we are, we can't just dismiss things and say they just happen - because we have principles and because us humans are humans, created to have emotions. And because we are made different from each other, we have different emotional make up and hence, perspectives. What might be casual to one person might mean otherwise to another. What might be easy to one person might be very depressing to another one.
What do you do if your emotional make up is not able to handle a thing you thought you will be able to? Do you alter your genetic code? Do you go under a surgery so you become an alien instead, or a robot?
If you look at these things closely, or if you step back and look through a camera with wide-angle lens, you will see that all things actually fit into a pattern and it's as if everything is actually just based on templates as simple as that of Microsoft Powerpoint 2003. No matter how weird, how far-fetch, how unbelievable an event is, it will fit into a pattern. We earthlings just love to sensationalize, draw lines so thin between things that even us can no longer recognize them or whatever the hell are we even trying to distinguish from each other through those thinly-drawn lines. So the next time you think what happened to you is out-of-this-world, remember the word "patterns". Don't be sad, no matter how "first time" it feels, that thing sure had happened before and if it's turning sour, you'll be getting over it just fine.
Just don't regret anything. Only take lessons with you.
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